How To Get Back With Ex - Girlfriend - Wife - Boyfriend

Is it possible to learn how to get back with ex boyfriends, girlfriends, husbands or wives? The quick answer is yes. Most everyone has had to deal with a relationship ending at one point in their lives but not everyone knows that the end does not necessarily have to be the end.

Did you know that 90% of relationships can be put back together? That's right 90%. The trick is learning what to do and then doing it. It is a process and there are specific steps you need to take to accomplish your goal.

Your ex probably told you in no uncertain terms why they were leaving you. What happened? Did you exhibit some bad behavior they just couldn't tolerate anymore? Did you cheat on them? Whatever the reason is or was the first thing to do is change the behavior. Fix what needs to be fixed.

When the new you has emerged and you have changed your way of thinking and behaving, the next thing to do is apologize. Send a note with some flowers or something nice and make your apology sincere. Do not come off as sounding needy or desperate though, this is a giant turn off. Your ex will not talk to you if you sound needy or desperate. You want things to change? Change them. The love you save could be your own.

When confronted with the task of learning how to get back with ex partners, learn what to say and how to say it. There are specific strategies you can learn to allow you to do this. When you master this incredible art of communication you will have your ex eating out of the palm of your hand.

Like I said, this is a process you have to learn and get comfortable with so do not expect to be able to get your ex to come running back to you tomorrow if they just left you today. With careful planning and some time and effort, you can make them see that they still love you and probably made a mistake when they left you in the first place.

Too many people break up and then make the changes they needed to make during the relationship. They do not realize that if they had made the changes while still in the relationship they may not have broken up when they did.

Another piece of advice I can give you is, after you have accomplished your goal of getting back together, do not become a passive onlooker. Keep working to strengthen what you have gotten back.

You had to work hard to get your ex back and you will have to work hard to keep them. Show them everyday what they mean to you. This does not have to be anything huge or extravagant, just find someway to show your partner that you appreciate them. I guarantee you will not regret learning how to get back with ex partners.
 

Stop Your Divorce - Yes - Maybe - NO

When it comes to trying to stop your divorce most of us will do the exact opposite things to what we should really do. One of the most common things is to plead, beg and promise to make changes. A better thing to do is to be realistic. Sometimes a marriage can't be saved, and maybe shouldn't be saved. Decide if your marriage really should be saved.

It's easy to get scared of the prospect of being alone, especially when you've been with someone for a long time. Just make sure that that is  not the reason you want to stay married. It's not a good reason.
If you find that you really do want to save your marriage for the right reasons than you have got options. Here are some things you can do, or not do, to help save your marriage:

1.  First things first, assuming that your partner isn't just a jackass, but has been a loving partner to you and has just gotten to the point where they don't see a future between the two of you, take some time to evaluate how you and your marriage have changed since the two of you have been together.
It's sad but true that we often drift apart from each but it happens so slowly we don't even realize it.

Try to compare where the two of you are now in your relationship as opposed to where you used to be. Now don't be unrealistic. People change and so do relationships, you can't expect to feel exactly the same way together as you did when you were twenty. That's unrealistic. But that doesn't mean that as the two of you have changed and grown that your marriage can't change and grow and stay strong too. Has it? Or have the two of you gone your separate ways without even realizing it?

2. After you've given that some thought and hopefully come up with some ideas, talk to your spouse. I mean really talk, talk like you probably haven't talked to each other in years. Openly, honestly without anger and resentment. Don't accuse, just suggest. Tell them what you think and ask them what they think. Even though you are both coming at it from different angles, you might just find that you are both on the same page.  Talking will help you find out.

3. One of the best things the two of you can do is to find a counselor who can guide you down this path. The two of you have probably had years of poor communication skills and bad habits, it's going to be hard to break those bad habits alone. A counselor can help. A counselor can also act as referee if things start to get a little too heated. If you really want to save your marriage this is usually the best way to go about it.

By trying to stop your divorce you just might make your marriage better than it's been in a long time, or maybe better than it's ever been. Just talk to one another, and more importantly, listen to one another. Find someone who can help you navigate this difficult path, and you'll have a very good chance of making things work out just the way you want.

Relationship Break Up - 2 Schools Of Thought

Breaking up is hard enough to do as it is, no one wants to have to endure a big scene where theres a lot of crying and pleading. Yuck. To find the best way to go through a relationship break up and make it as easy as possible on both of you, here are a few tips.

More than likely by the time you're ready to end the relationship you've already had enough emotional scenes to last a lifetime and just can't face the idea of another one. That's the reason that some people take the (tacky) route of leaving a voice mail message or sending a text message to breakup. While it's understandable that you'd want to avoid another scene, it's a crappy way to end a relationship.

There is a middle ground, somewhere between a tacky text message and a full on emotional assault:

1. For one thing, make darn sure you really want to breakup. Now is not the time to be wishy washy. Give it some thought and don't do it on the spur of the moment or you may just end up regretting it and eating your words.  But, once you've made up your mind give yourself a day or so to get your head around it. When the times comes you have to be calm and firm and allowing yourself time to get used to the idea will help you accomplish that.

2. Now that you've decided that a breakup is the right thing to do and you've gotten used to the idea, don't drag it out forever. Decide on the best time and place, and make it soon, to have 'the talk' with your partner. When choosing the best time and place you should choose a time where you can take some time and explain things.  Don't tell your best friend or anyone else until you talk to your partner, you don't want someone to slip up and say something before you've had a chance to talk to your partner, the news has to come from you.

As to the location, there are two schools of thought on that. Some people recommend a restaurant or some place public to keep the scene to a minimum. While other people think that this type of conversation should be handled in private so that your soon - to- be-ex doesn't have the added humiliation of breaking down in public. Personally, unless I were afraid for my safety, I'd go for the private location. I just think that your partner deserves that much respect.

3. When the two of you meet, don't go for the big buildup. Just say what you want to say and get it out.  Make sure you explain why you've reached the decision you have (explain, don't justify. It's your decision to make you don't have to justify it).  Be compassionate but firm. Don't waver in the least. Let them talk if they want, but only for a short time. It won't do either of you any good to sit through a long, uncomfortable pleading session. If they have something to say, fine, let them have their say. But if it's just one long attempt to get you to change your mind you have to pull the plug.
 
4. After you've done the deed, leave. Don't call them and don't accept their calls if they call you. It may sound harsh but it's far worse for you to send mixed signals and talk to them if you really don't want them in your life. Best for both of you to just move on.

A relationship break up is never a fun thing to go through, but if you have to do it, do it as compassionately, and quickly as possible. It's best for both of you.